Maria Sharapova once stated that “When you look good, you feel good. Confidence with what you're wearing is very important. If you feel good, you will always perform your best without worrying about anything”. Here at Mode-sty we strive to make you look good by helping you establish your desired modest look. But today, we want to focus on the “feel good” part. A percentage of feeling good may result from how well dressed you are, but it also comes from within; the mental, physical and emotional areas. When you truly feel good in these three areas, your self-esteem sky rockets and you exude confidence. When you have confidence and look good, you become unstoppable!
So how can you build your self-esteem? How can you feel good both internally and externally that your style in dressing becomes like an icing on a cake?
Step 1: Find the root of the problem.
Find the cause. It could be a person, a habit or situations that have or had negative effects on your self-esteem. It could range from a habit of talking down to yourself, medias images and messages, to your “friends” or even family members verbally abusing you. The list goes on. Take your time and really think this step through, it is the most important piece.
Step 2: Uproot the problem; a daily process
When you eventually find the cause, uproot it! It will be like weeding out negativity. Uprooting may mean having to let go of friends, overcoming your past and not letting it dictate your present and future state. Silencing negative voices around you and amplifying positivity. It could also mean forgiving yourself for past mistakes and choosing to learn from them rather than beating yourself up. Perhaps also forgiving others and letting go of what others did or said from your heart. When you free yourself from what others have said or done to you, you begin to live on your own standards. This step will not happen overnight, so be patient, it is a constant everyday practice.
Step 3: Believe in yourself
At times, we can be our biggest enemies and prevent ourselves from growth. Step 1 and 2 rely solely on your free will. You are on the driver’s seat and It is up to you to start the engine. Step 1 and 2 can be tough but can be made easier when you believe that you are capable. Although it may sound cliché, no one can stop you from making a change, but you. One way to help you belive in yourself is to use your physical body to trick your mind, smile more, sit and stand up straight and strike a power pose. Another practice is to make a list of your strengths and achievements, review it weekly, focus on how to improve your strengths and maximize them. We all have weaknesses but you’ll never get anywhere dwelling on them, those who are successful have learned how to mitigate them and amplify their strengths. Likewise you should aim to look for the good in others and focus on their gifts as opposed to their shortcomings. Believing in the capacity and good in others will help you believe in yourself.
Step 4: BELIEVE IN YOUR BEAUTY!
As you go through the process to build your self-esteem, remember that you ARE beautiful. There isn’t a human being that is perfect. Yes, even that one celebrity you admire isn’t close to perfection. The imperfections you may be pointing out are perfectly embedded in you, to make you a unique individual. If everyone looked the same, the world wouldn’t have much flavor. So, embrace your beauty. You have been wonderfully made.